To some Mothers Day is just that Mothers Day..this year it meant so much more to me than ever...as most know that know me or have read some past blogs of mine that my mother and I didn't have the best relationship...not for the lack of my trying..its just the way she wanted it..she was estranged from me and my two brothers, who are both younger than me..she was in my life until I was 19..then after that it was mainly gone..but every year I would send her flowers for her birthday, flowers for Mothers day , a gift for Christmas..I would keep in touch with letters and pictures of the kids and grandkids..she always wrote a little thank you note ..I wrote letters and asked her if we could meet for lunch..I was in my 50's and she was in her 70's..I thought it was time she got to know me as an adult..before it was too late..it never happened and in December of 2011 my mother passed away..I remember always looking for a card to send her on holidays...Hallmark just didn't make the right kind..they were to mushy and nothing said it like I needed it to be said..she WASN'T there for me , EVER...I can only thank her for giving birth to me , raising me to a certain extent, and for showing me how to sterilize bottles and nipples when my first child was born....
This year my daughters really told me how they felt..they always got the mushy cards for me ..cause I was always there for them..my mother taught me how NOT to be..that I can also thank her for..heres a few things my daughters wrote to me on facebook..this is a post my daughter Jeanell wrote to me..
Awwww it felt so wonderful to wake up to so many Happy Mother's Day messages I have to give the biggest Happy Mother's Day wish to the best mama in the world....my mama! The one who has raised me by herself into the woman I am today, the one who is helping me raise my own children because their father chose not too....I couldn't love and appreciate you more Brenda Moultrie...hope ur day is awesome!
This is a post I posted on Mothers day..
I want to wish all mothers a Happy Mothers Day..especially to my two beautiful daughters Davina Marie..and Jeanell Mommysamiracle Moultrie who together gave me 5 beautiful grandbabies..and to Lacey Mancuso who gave me 2 gorgeous grandbabies and the youngest..I love you all more than anything and am thankful for each day I have with you all...you are all the best..Happy Mothers Day my angels
comment from my daughter Jeanell.. Happy Mother's Day mama! Love u a million!!!
comment from y daughter Davina Marie..I have learned everything i know from my mother and i am so proud to be her daughter and the crazy thing is she didn't have that bond with her mother so she raised us without a blueprint and she did a damn good job.. im knocking on 40's door and yet im not finished being raised.. i still need her wisdom,her encouragement, her guidance.. i couldn't imagine life without her!! Thank You Mom! I love You!
my comment after theirs.. Wow..I am so happy thay my children feel that way about me.we as mothers do the best we can and never expect any thanks..so when we do get it ,it kind of lets us know we did alright and our kids will be okay long after we are gone..that in itself is the greatest gift of all..I struggled most of my life trying to have a relationship with my mother..I could never say these things to my mom..she was never there for me and wanted it that way..away from my brothers too..she passed away lonely.never really knowing me or my children or grandchildren..I always loved her though..but her mother my mommom was the best role model for me..I miss her immensely..thank you Jeanell and Davina for being who you are.
this was one of the best Mothers Days ever. I had four of my grandbabies over night. I got to wake up to thier luscious little faces, I hated when they left..they will all be back next weekend..they cry when they have to leave..thats a good thing..love that they love it at grandmoms.I loved it at my grandmoms. First picture is of my oldest daughter Davina she is 38 and the mother of my first and oldest grandchild , my granddaughter Shai'ana who will be 19 in two weeks..she has two other children also..Gabby and Davion..the middle picture is of my grandmother ..me on the right and Davina on the left holding Shai'ana many years ago..my grandmother passed away in 2002 at the age of 90 from a fall..the last picture is my youngest daughter, my baby of them all Jeanell who will be 33 in a few weeks..she is the mother of two of my grandchildren..Dallas and Dellaney..My son Clifton is the father of my two youngest grandbabies Brayden and Jolie..I have an older son robert..who is 41 and has no children..