Thursday, July 8, 2010
MY WEDDING ANNIVERSARY
Today is July 8, 2010...this is my 36th wedding anniversary....Although we have been seperated for 19 of those years we are still technically, legally married..I tried to get the divorce twice, but didnt have his address for the Constables to serve him papers...What?? anyway...we are still married...haven't seen him in about 5 years or so...I'm not going to even go into all that right here...but Its a bittersweet day for me...I can't help to know that it is July 8 and July 8th has significant meaning in my life..I can't deny it..cant get arond it ..now way ,no how...so ..it saddens me the way things went down..but 36 years ago I remember how I felt..I was euphoric...I was in love...like nothing else in my life, so glad to have ever even felt that way and to know I was loved the same way back...it was the real thing, the real deal...I was also 8 1/2 months pregnant on our wedding day...this was my second child and we didnt marry because I was pregnant...we had marriage planned way back when I left Pennsylvania to move to South Carolina to be with him...I already had a child from my first marriage which I thought I was in love and I guess I loved him...we were so young and well I had Bobby and the marriage failed...okay back to this day 36 years ago....we got married by his uncle ,,who was a Dean in South Carolina (some religious title with the ability to perform wweddings)...our two witnesses was the deans wife and my husbands mother...It was nice and my wedding ring was a Old Milwaukee beer tab...it was 1975 and life was simple...everything was perfect...we were "high" on life....Life was good...we lived with my mother in law...15 days later our daughter Davina was born...life was even better now..We both fell right into parenthood together...He was a great father..changed diapers, cooked, helped keep things together...he was in college taking accounting at the time...then he worked in some tool and dye factory...he got educational benefits from the VA...he was shot in Vietnam and was discharged honorably.....and the story continues..but for today I want to remember how it was....and not the fact that so much got lost..he is now the grandfather of 7 children that he doesnt know and that don't know him...and to me thats the saddest part of it...its life and we will never get this lost time back...and I feel sorry for him)...because I am in the childrens and grandchildrens lives...every day..in person or by phone...every single day...and I am eternally grateful for that...Thank you Lord...for life has been good and life had its bad parts...but I would not trade one moment...I thank you for the priveleges, the rewards, and the journey....its been a trip!!!!