It Hurts in the pit of my stomach..

My youngest daughter has been with this guy for 10 years now..they did break up for about 3 years for a period...so anyway he buys an engagement ring and asks her officially to marry him in May of this year..she said yes and immedialtely begins planning her wedding...He had asked her before but she never really said yes or no one way or another..she never wanted the duty of planning a wedding...although shes the one in the family that plans Christmas , Easter, and Halloween for the family..its sort of "her thing"..but she didn't want the task of planning hers or anyone else's wedding....
So 2 of her bridesmaids have their gowns...the invitaions have been bought...the hall has been reserved...20 disposable cameras have been purchased to be placed on the reception tables for the guests to take picures and leave the camera behind for the bride and groom to develop and have slews of pictures that would have been otherwise missed... the mother of the brides(me) outfit and shoes have been bought .....but now the invitaions will be used for scrap cards...the 2 bridesmaids gowns will be put up for sale on Bonanzle....the mother of the bride will keep her outfit for some future function.....the cameras I already have for sale on Bonanzle and we will be calling the hall to see if some of the money can be refunded....
She says she feels like a fool and is embarrased that shes calling the wedding off...shes known all along that he was a jerk...he makes good money ...but lacks in fathering skills and man skills...(they have 2 children together...a boy age 5 and a princess age 4 in a few days...)
I'm so glad this is over...I did give my blessings for this wedding only because I thought she really wanted it ....but they've had trouble since they got back together about 2 years ago...hes wishy washy and I'm not saying she's the easiest person to live with but shes an excellent mother and has never done him wrong.......
He works for the sheriffs department and he ego trips...because he has a gun and a badge he thinks hes King of the world...he has no personality and no sense of humor..to see him smile is a miracle...so I really never thought he liked himself...I love him don't get me wrong...but hes a jerk and he lies...
I know shes hurting right now but she will bounce back...the straw that broke the camels back was this past weekend when he went missing...her and I and about 20 other people were worried about him and had a missing persons report on him..hes a diabetic and we didnt think he had his medication....he left all weekend(fahers day weekend) and never called to let her know he was okay(they live together) or where he was...she had fathers day plans for them....Monday morning I called his supervisor(whom by the way was on the hunt for him with us during his dissapearance ...so knew what we went through and how upset we were not knowing where he was.).and I asked him if Mr X had reported to work and as luck would have it he did...that was it..she thanked God for his being alive and the fact that she didn't have to have "that conversation" wih her children and she started packing and calling the wedding off ...again...she called it off a few weeks ago but he wormed his way back...I'm confident that won't happen again...so for now her and the children are here with me (and the dog)....and I'm happy to have them (hopefully not for too long)...she is looking for a place...It hurts in the pit of my stomach because I've been hurt before and I'm feeling for her...but I seeing a weight lifted off of her...and she'll be fine....what a way to get rid of 220 pounds and 6 feet 5 inches worth of crap....